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There is a reason as to how some young couples get married and are able to stay together for a life time in love, despite the trials and tribulations they're sure to face through out the course of their marriage. While other young couples get married and within five years are facing divorce.
You see, often young couples get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever. However, about 50% of marriages end in divorce these days, it’s obvious that it takes more than just chemistry to make their love undying. Therefore, it pays to know a few secrets before getting married.
Continue Dating
Over the years, people often drift apart or relationships and marriages become stale because couples fail to do new and special things together.
That's why going on new and refreshing dates through out the years of marriage is so important. In fact, there is something about “dating” that creates a sense of magic in a couples relationship that can make them feel as though they're still a young couple. Even when they've been together for several years.
While on a date, you also put more effort into your appearance, have more uninterrupted time to communicate on a deeper level and are naturally drawn closer together.
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Delay is Often Better
It’s a well documented statistic that young couples who have dated for a year or longer before marriage have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period.
A year of dating gives time for many emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered.You may adore someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter.
Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.
Always Express Your Love
Often times as a relationship matures partners tend to stop praising each other because they 'assume' their partner already knows what they're thinking.
When in reality, a day should never go by without you praising your partner. Compliment them on their cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance them first. When they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in return. Expressing your love will lead to better love making.
Are you a super supporter of what your mate does and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or silence?
Take Time to Understand Your Partner
Young couples with the most problems are often the ones that say, "I just don't understand him/her."
So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about your mate's profession or the degree they are pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his interest in football? If you are a man, do you fully understand what women experience during PMS or menopause?
You don't need to be identical, but make an effort to learn about the things that interest your partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.
Answer The Big Questions
Does your partner want kids? Do you both want careers? Do they have a history of spending their way into debt? Do they go to church?
In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of marriages end in divorce is because young couples fail to ask each other the right questions before they get married.
I guess people think they'll be able to change their spouses after marriage and everything will be better. Wrong, if you fail to sit down and discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could end up with nothing but argument after argument for the rest of your days.
In the end, if you both have completely different views, desires and goals in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will help you stay together.
Young couples stay together by making it their utmost priority to understand each other inside & out before they take that walk down the aisle.
Helpful relationship resources for young couples who want to stay together.
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